The readings

An Apache Blessing
(to be read by Jo Edwards)

Now you will feel no rain,
for each of you will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness,
for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons,
but there is only one life before you.
May beauty surround you both in the
journey ahead and through all the years,
May happiness be your companion and
your days together be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and
remind yourselves often of what brought you together.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness,
gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
When frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship,
as they threaten all relationships at one time or another,
remember to focus on what is right between you,
not only the part which seems wrong.
In this way, you can ride out the storms when
clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that
even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.
And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your
life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

Blessing for a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman
(to be read by Clifford Elliott)

May your marriage bring you all the excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice, but not compel one another.
May you embrace, but not encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another's presence - no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

The napkins

We bought ivory napkins from Linens Limited:

and then had them embroidered with an otter, our names and the date of our wedding by Willow Embroidery:

The napkins will be finished off with ribbon and raffia and with these luggage tag place cards:

The finished napkins:

All ready to go to Otterton Mill:

The Flowers

The flowers for the bride, bridesmaid, buttonholes and tables will be from Wiggly Wigglers.

We're also hoping to gett some hopbines from them to hang from the beams at Otterton Mill:

Favours

We've chosen ceramic honeypots for the adults (£3.75 each from the Little Favour Box Company):


For the four youngest children we're getting soft toy otters from ebay since they are Ian's favourite animal and the reception will be held at Otterton Mill:



We've got Finn (who's a lot older than the other children) some plasticine.

The Rings

Rather than go with traditional wedding rings, we've decided to design our own.

We chose plain Palladium bands from Smooch Rings and are having them engraved with little dragonflies all the way round.


The rings arrived in May:

The suits

Ian has chosen to wear grey tails from Jonathan Hawkes


with the following waistcoat (with cream and not burgundy flowers) and a claret cravat

Bridal jewellery

I chose a necklace with crystal and diamante flowers from a seller in the US.

I didn't like the earrings that came with it so I bought some (fake) pearl and crystal earrings and a matching bracelet on ebay.

They'll work well on the wedding day, but I can also use them for other special occasions.